When The Dance of Deceptionwas published, Lerner discovered that women were not eager to identify with the subject. It is an interesting read if you want to learn about different phases of development in the feminist movement.

I don't normally drift towards self-help types but this was really a very readable insight into things that happen everyday.This is an interesting read. Download it once and read it on your Kindle device, PC, phones or tablets. Peace!!   If you are a woman...and especially if you have tried therapy from a shrink...FORGET IT...just read these line of "The Dance Of" books by Harriet! In this visitation, I am taken back to the beginning of a fallen angel. We all "do deception", often with the intention to protect ourselves and the relationships we depend on. Yet in the name of "honesty", we can bludgeon each other. Copyright © 2020 HarperCollins Publishers All rights reserved. Very disappointed. There were some good points in this book. Here is a Spend $49 on print products and get FREE shipping at HC.comWe all "do deception", often with the intention to protect ourselves and the relationships we depend on. She notes how secrets create insiders and outsiders within families and give secret-keepers inflated notions of power and/or guilt.

We can approach a difficult issue with such a poor sense of timing and tact that we can actually shut down the lines of communication rather than widening the path of truth-telling.Sometimes Lerner's advice takes a surprising turn -- for example, when she asks us to engage in a bold act of pretending in order to discover something "more real"; or when she tells us not to parachute down on our family to bring up a "hot issue" without laying the necessary groundwork first.Whether the subject is affairs, family secrets, sexual faking or the challenge of "being oneself", Lerner helps us to discover, speak and live our own truths.We'd love you to buy this book, and hope you find this page convenient in locating a place of purchase. We see how relationships are affected by lying and faking, by silence and pretending and by brave - but misguided - efforts to tell the truth. Start by marking “The Dance of Deception: A Guide to Authenticity and Truth-Telling in Women's Relationships” as Want to Read: We can approach a difficult issue with such a poor sense of timing and tact that we can actually shut down the lines of communication rather than widening the path of truth-telling.Sometimes Lerner's advice takes a surprising turn -- for example, when she asks us to engage in a bold act of pretending in order to discover something "more real"; or when she tells us not to parachute down on our family to bring up a "hot issue" without laying the necessary groundwork first.Whether the subject is affairs, family secrets, sexual faking or the challenge of "being oneself", Lerner helps us to discover, speak and live our own truths.We all "do deception", often with the intention to protect ourselves and the relationships we depend on.

Drawing on more than two decades of clinical experience, Dr. Lerner articulates her rich philosophy and thoughtful guidelines about speaking out and holding back. "Well, I don't do deception" was a common resonse. There is a new gem of wisdom in every book of hers that I read. This one is no exception. How it's almost like a mating call. I asked myself a few times if this was a book on political and moral views or psychology.

In my community where I was brought, women are supposed to pretend that they have it together, always, because they are the glue of their homes and without them all disintegrates but the world of today is different, more women aThis book made me think real hard about the way we women are brought to pretend and deceive in our everyday lives even when we think we are the epitome of honesty, it's true like the author said because truth telling needs context and needs all women to be truth tellers. However, the liberal views were hard for me to actually hear what the author was trying to say. At first I felt as though I was over hearing a private conversation between two women who were finally breaking the secret code that I (as a male) was not given as a young man. We all "do deception", often with the intention to protect ourselves and the relationships we depend on.

I already had some pretty strong opinions about honesty and its place in the virtue hierarchy, but Lerner not only dovetails what I already believed, she takes it deep into the underbelly of consideration for long term happiness using her amazing knowledge of family systems. January 1st 1993 The Dance of Deceptionu Copyright © 2020 HarperCollins Publishers All rights reserved. Maybe she felt it was deceptiI liked her books as always but this one less than the others that I've read. Just a moment while we sign you in to your Goodreads account. "Well, I don't do deception" was a common resonse. We all "do deception", often with the intention to protect ourselves and the relationships we depend on. Copyright © 2020 HarperCollins Publishers All rights reserved. pretending—the lying/pretending distinction is an interesting and important one—is more about the daily task of cohering to a persona that may not be entirely honest, whereas lying is more direct falsehood. The Dance of Deception: A Guide to Authenticity & Truth-Telling in Women's Relationships Paperback – January 1, 1993 by Harriet Lerner (Author) "Well, I don't do deception" was a common resonse.Faked orgasms, family secrets and an exaggerated sense of privacy prevent women from embracing their own identities, evaluating their relationships and assuming fuller roles in society, avers Lerner ( The Dance of Anger ), a psychologist at the Menninger Clinic. "Well, I don't do deception" was a common resonse. Yet in the name of "honesty", we can bludgeon each other. This book made me think real hard about the way we women are brought to pretend and deceive in our everyday lives even when we think we are the epitome of honesty, it's true like the author said because truth telling needs context and needs all women to be truth tellers. All in all, this is a good read that will bring forward more readings of one's own reality.I liked her books as always but this one less than the others that I've read.

If you're interested in truth-telling, integrity and authenticity, then this book might be a good fit. We see how relationships are affected by lying and faking, by silence and pretending and by brave -- but misguided -- efforts to tell the truth. This book was quoted from in "Mending the Soul: Workbook" so I was really looking forward to reading the actual book. We all "do deception", often with the intention to protect ourselves and the relationships we depend on. we have diffewe all know how i feel about dr lerner by now, and this book is no different. The info in it is very dated. This one is no exception.

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